Dating when children are involved

The Necessary Parent When we attended Bill Gothard’s IBLP Basic Seminar back in the mid-80s, one of the topics he covered was dating.

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Dating someone with kids when you still feel like something of a kid yourself can be a challenge.

To some (myself included), age ain't nothin’ but a number.

Let me tell you about second place: This is where close members of his family reside.

This is the place he reserves for family or as-good-as family.

Much like I don't screen people for specific ethnicities when considering a relationship, I also don't ask for a date of birth.

Granted, there are certain age brackets above and below my own that would likely warrant the immediate no-go in my books, but I generally take the “organic” approach to dating. I’m talking about kids: The unforeseen element of Millennial dating.

For parents with adult children the scenario is a common one. Raising children isn’t easy, but it’s usually one of life’s greatest blessings.

You share that you’re finally dating and they stare with a look of terror. If you can just make it through the terrible two’s, the confused tween years, the rebellious teen years, and the college debt, you’ll end up with a loving, hassle-free relationship to last the rest of your days – the conventional thinking goes.

To your children, just the idea that you’re single and thinking about a new relationship can be depressing and hurtful.

It is natural to idealize the relationship between your parents, and adult children often object to the “replacement” of their father or mother.

In fact, courtship, to us, was how our grandparents and sometimes even our parents would refer to meeting, getting to know, and preparing to marry each other.

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